The mother-to-be in your life needs help to have a healthy, happy pregnancy. That’s where you come in.
When your partner is expecting, her body will be constantly changing for 40 weeks. As a result, so will her energy level, her moods, her appetite and more. Your role as supportive partner can go a long way in helping her have a healthy pregnancy. Vanderbilt Wilson County Hospital midwives care for women before and throughout their pregnancies. Here, Marylou Smith, a certified nurse-midwife, suggests seven important ways partners can support a healthy pregnancy.
1. Attend OB-GYN appointments.
Good, consistent prenatal care is critical, which means she’s going to be seeing her health care provider a lot. Having someone there to help absorb all of the information and to ask questions will ease the process for her. Unsure when to tag along? You may want to consider attending any appointments that will include an ultrasound — especially the anatomy scan around 19-22 weeks — as well as the early appointments and those closest to her due date, when the most changes will be occurring in her pregnancy.
2. Learn about the changes she’s experiencing.
“Is this normal?” You’re going to hear this question a lot. Help her navigate all the changes she’s experiencing by reading up on common discomforts, and by signing up for an app or email that will update you weekly on her pregnancy’s progress.
3. Make healthy choices, too.
It can be hard to make big lifestyle changes at a time when you’re already struggling with all the fatigue and discomfort a pregnancy brings. Having an accountability buddy — someone who’s also eating a balanced diet and forgoing alcohol and smoking — will make it easier for her to create and stick to healthy habits. Unsure about what she can and can’t do? Brush up on the dos and don’ts, then follow them yourself.
4. Encourage her to rest.
On top of all the hormone fluctuations and changes occurring in her body — an increase in blood volume, a slow-down of digestion, loosening joints — she’s also working around-the-clock on creating a human. That adds up to a lot of fatigue. She needs rest. Give her a break by taking on more of the household chores or errands. A nap or two for her is not just helpful; it’s necessary.
5. Help prepare for labor and delivery.
If you’ll play a role in the big day, make sure you’re in the know about the delivery process. Ask if she’d like help crafting a birth plan, which is a helpful tool to ensure that her team (including you) understands her desires for delivery. Consider taking parenting or birthing classes together. Ask questions. Knowing what to expect will help you help her when she needs it most.
6. Understand how you can help with breastfeeding.
Sometimes breastfeeding is easy. More often than not, though, it’s not. If she intends to breastfeed, anticipate some of her breastfeeding questions and, if possible, encourage her to take a class before her due date. After delivery, be her advocate by following tips for early breastfeeding success.
7. Know the signs and symptoms of postpartum depression.
Many women will experience what’s known as “the baby blues” as their bodies and hormones adjust after delivery. This is completely normal, and will likely improve within a week or two. However, if symptoms persist, intervention is important. Symptoms to watch for: Avoiding doing things she normally enjoys; trouble sleeping; feeling guilty or blaming herself for problems; anxiety; thoughts of harming herself of the baby. Read up on the warning signs of postpartum depression, and encourage her to seek help from her provider as needed.
Vanderbilt Women’s Health provides care for women at all stages of their lives at locations across Middle Tennessee. Learn more here or call 615-343-5700.
