It can be scary to learn that you have prostate cancer. An expert addresses some common concerns.
A diagnosis of prostate cancer can affect you in many ways. It’s normal to be scared, angry or depressed after receiving this diagnosis. The doctors at Vanderbilt Urology see people have these reactions often.
“Each person copes with a prostate cancer diagnosis in their own way,” said urologist Dr. Bryn Launer. “It’s important to remember, though, that prostate cancer is very treatable.”
There are some common feelings and concerns that many people may have after diagnosis. You may have some of these reactions, too. Knowing what to expect can help you better navigate your journey.
You may not want to talk about it.
It can be uncomfortable talking about your diagnosis. But it’s important to realize that it also affects those around you. “Talking about it with your partner and family will help you and your loved ones learn to cope with it,” Launer said. “Talk with them about what your health care team tells you, how it makes you feel, and what your concerns are.” Together you can learn about your cancer diagnosis, the risks and benefits of each treatment option, and how cancer and treatment may affect your life.
You may feel embarrassed or ashamed.
“You may be amazed at how much talking with others who understand your concerns can lower your stress.”
Some people are embarrassed or feel guilty for ignoring symptoms of prostate cancer. Or they may feel guilty about not seeing their health care provider because they didn’t want to have a prostate exam done. Some people don’t go back to see their health care provider even after prostate cancer is diagnosed, choosing instead to treat themselves with alternative medicine, or they ignore the diagnosis.
“Be honest with yourself and your health care team,” Launer said. “Form a partnership. Learn as much as you can about the cancer and what your treatment options are. Talk about the side effects of each option and how they could affect you during and long after treatment.”
You may also want to get a second opinion, to get a better understanding of all the treatment options. That helps you decide which treatment works best for you. Health care providers know that it’s normal to get a second opinion to confirm a diagnosis or to talk about treatment options.
You may worry that your sexuality is threatened.
The prostate gland is part of sexual function. Therefore, prostate cancer and its treatment can impact your sex life and your ability to have children. It can also cause problems controlling your urine.
“Many people worry about sexual performance,” Launer said, “but it’s good to keep in mind that the effect on sexual function and urine continence varies. Treatment options can make a difference.” You can help ease your fears by talking with your health care provider about ways to minimize changes to the way your body works after treatment.
You may be afraid to ask for help.
It’s normal to feel scared, helpless or alone when you’ve been diagnosed with prostate cancer.
It may help to know that you are definitely not alone. This is a common cancer. The American Cancer Society expects that in the U.S. in 2026, there will be about 333,830 new cases of prostate cancer diagnosed. About 1 in 8 men will be diagnosed with prostate cancer at some point during their life. Most do not die from it, however. The cancer society estimates that currently there are about 3.5 million people living with prostate cancer in the U.S.
Consider going to a support group. It can help to meet and talk with others who have been in the same situation. You may also want to bring your partner or a friend as a support person. “You may be amazed at how much talking with others who understand your concerns can lower your stress,” Launer said.
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